Does your future Mother-in-Law make you wish you were MIA?
What's a girl to do?
This summer has been filled with brides-to-be with one major common denominator. The overbearing, ultra nosy, control freak MIL to be.
It's so sad to see friendly, put together, independent brides getting all worked up. Here's a few pointers on how to 'shut it down' before you waste any more mental or emotional energy on this.
How to Practice Diplomacy in a High Stakes + Stressful Situation
1) Run! {just kidding}
2) Develop a personal barrier : Team Buffer
Hopefully, fingers crossed, you have at least one friend who's great at dealing with difficult people, and has your best interests at heart. Utilize them. Bribe them. Sit them down, share with them a few of your wedding planning 'war stories', and your fears about possible wedding day disasters.
3) Schedule personal time {aka: spa appointments}
Having this 'on the books' is half the battle. Treat these appointments with the greatest level of respect. Maintaining your mental health cannot be rescheduled.
Showing posts with label stress relief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stress relief. Show all posts
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Saturday, December 20, 2008
A Seamless Reception :: Feature Article
A Grand Wedding provides first hand advice & guidance on planning a wedding on a realistic budget.
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I had the pleasure of providing Go2Girl Events 'two cents' on how to create a seamless + stress free Reception. It's all about timing!
Here's the article ::
Friday, November 14, 2008
Inspirational Frame of Mind
A Great Friend shared some wise words with me yesterday, and they've been playing over and over in my mind this morning.....So I thought I'd share them here.
' Love & Happiness are the ingredients that make the day beautiful - not flowers, invitations, or cake.
It's that natural glow, the contagious smiles, laughter and tears. These are the memories that will give you goosebumps as you reminisce in the years to come.'
What made this so poignant, was the translation into Everyday Life.
The Pursuit of Happiness is why we all wake up, set goals, nurture relationships and start down a path.
It's so easy to get caught up with all of the 'stuff' surrounding us, and feeling suffocated by obligation - Especially when you're a Bride to Be planning the biggest event of your life thus far.
Just remember to Breathe Deep, Smile, and Be Present in the Moment.
Do you have a Ritual that helps you Relax?
' Love & Happiness are the ingredients that make the day beautiful - not flowers, invitations, or cake.
It's that natural glow, the contagious smiles, laughter and tears. These are the memories that will give you goosebumps as you reminisce in the years to come.'
What made this so poignant, was the translation into Everyday Life.
The Pursuit of Happiness is why we all wake up, set goals, nurture relationships and start down a path.
It's so easy to get caught up with all of the 'stuff' surrounding us, and feeling suffocated by obligation - Especially when you're a Bride to Be planning the biggest event of your life thus far.
Just remember to Breathe Deep, Smile, and Be Present in the Moment.
Do you have a Ritual that helps you Relax?
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
The Big O
No, not that O. (get your mind out of the gutter)
Oh, and not Oprah either.
I'm talking about the 'O' that can eat you alive while planning a wedding...
Obligation
That ugly word that seems to rear it's head in so many situations surrounding family inclusion, traditions to follow, guests to invite, food to serve.
You can just feel it stirring inside, can't you?
It can be a complete energy drain having to field questions & unsolicited advice from all sides, especially if some of them are footing the bill.
And they'll dangle that check like a carrot!!
There really is no clear cut path to stick to, except this :: Trust Your Gut.
If you feel uncomfortable, belittled, or resentful toward a demand or request - Clear the air.
Be an adult about it, and address the issue before it escalates.
Stress can manifest itself in so many different ways. The last thing you want is to break out into hives, or suffer from night terrors.
You need to squelch this type of manipulative behavior from others - - and fast.
Negotiation is the tactful and diplomatic route, and you always want to remain respectful.
Alas, the wedding day is for the union of Bride & Groom. But, it is also a celebration for all of your friends, family & guests who made the trek.
Create your own traditions, while honoring the past.
Here's to Stylish Sanity!
Oh, and not Oprah either.
I'm talking about the 'O' that can eat you alive while planning a wedding...
Obligation
That ugly word that seems to rear it's head in so many situations surrounding family inclusion, traditions to follow, guests to invite, food to serve.
You can just feel it stirring inside, can't you?
It can be a complete energy drain having to field questions & unsolicited advice from all sides, especially if some of them are footing the bill.
And they'll dangle that check like a carrot!!
There really is no clear cut path to stick to, except this :: Trust Your Gut.
If you feel uncomfortable, belittled, or resentful toward a demand or request - Clear the air.
Be an adult about it, and address the issue before it escalates.
Stress can manifest itself in so many different ways. The last thing you want is to break out into hives, or suffer from night terrors.
You need to squelch this type of manipulative behavior from others - - and fast.
Negotiation is the tactful and diplomatic route, and you always want to remain respectful.
Alas, the wedding day is for the union of Bride & Groom. But, it is also a celebration for all of your friends, family & guests who made the trek.
Create your own traditions, while honoring the past.
Here's to Stylish Sanity!
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
The 'All in One' Wedding Registry
Talk about a reduction in frustration & driving!
Now you can create an online registry, that allows you to pick-out items from stores all across the web, and share with your guests.
Anyone can order from the Registry, and gifts will be delivered directly to you!
http://www.wishpot.com
Oh, and did I mention...It's free.
Now you can create an online registry, that allows you to pick-out items from stores all across the web, and share with your guests.
Anyone can order from the Registry, and gifts will be delivered directly to you!
http://www.wishpot.com
Oh, and did I mention...It's free.
Friday, June 27, 2008
Don't be THAT bride
Planning a wedding should be joyous, creative & exciting!
Not another 'job', filled with excess stress & loathing.
As a Bride, you must invest positive energy into the relationships you are building, whether with Family, Friends or Vendors.
Approach each interaction with the outcome in mind, infusing it with a 'happy' chip on your shoulder.
But, even with the best intentions, some level of stress will creep in.
Here are a few tips to reign it in......
Keep it in Perspective
There are many details & decisions to make surrounding your Big Day. Focus on the Big Picture.
Perfection is not realistic, and actually creates more panic, stress and moodiness.
Does it really matter if the napkins aren't the exact shade of pink you want? Do you have to serve a Signature Cocktail, and increase your bar bill by $500?
Focus on the atmosphere and feelings you want to share with your guests, not the itty bitty details that can drive you mad!
Humor Me
You've got to remember to laugh, and roll with the changes. There is no point in getting all huffy like a 3 year old, and throwing a tantrum.
Remember, your energy & verbage sets the tone for everyone. Do you want to have an enjoyable planning & actual day of wedding experience?
Then seek to enjoy each moment - it goes by so fast. Upon reflection, you'll laugh at all of the little things that happened, and wonder why you worried to begin with.
Control Freak
You cannot take on all the Wedding Day tasks. If you even try, I can guarantee you'll be crying in your champagne, or pouting in the ladies room.
Your wedding day will not be perfect. Didn't it feel good to hear that?
Seek out a few trusted friends or family members, and assign them a small list of tasks.
Hire a Wedding Planner or Coordinator. This will be the best money you ever spend! Why you ask? Well, because wedding details are like a second language to us. We can see the holes before they even appear. Troubleshooting is what we do, to make your experience seamless.
Honor Yourself
Schedule time to relax, and allow some alone time. Pampering appointments are always great - facials, massage - or maybe a Cocktail Hour with the girls?
Be sure to spend time NOT chatting about wedding planning - but keeping up with what is happening in others lives.
You want to nurture the relationship with self & friends.
Here's to Stylish Sanity!
Not another 'job', filled with excess stress & loathing.
As a Bride, you must invest positive energy into the relationships you are building, whether with Family, Friends or Vendors.
Approach each interaction with the outcome in mind, infusing it with a 'happy' chip on your shoulder.
But, even with the best intentions, some level of stress will creep in.
Here are a few tips to reign it in......
Keep it in Perspective
There are many details & decisions to make surrounding your Big Day. Focus on the Big Picture.
Perfection is not realistic, and actually creates more panic, stress and moodiness.
Does it really matter if the napkins aren't the exact shade of pink you want? Do you have to serve a Signature Cocktail, and increase your bar bill by $500?
Focus on the atmosphere and feelings you want to share with your guests, not the itty bitty details that can drive you mad!
Humor Me
You've got to remember to laugh, and roll with the changes. There is no point in getting all huffy like a 3 year old, and throwing a tantrum.
Remember, your energy & verbage sets the tone for everyone. Do you want to have an enjoyable planning & actual day of wedding experience?
Then seek to enjoy each moment - it goes by so fast. Upon reflection, you'll laugh at all of the little things that happened, and wonder why you worried to begin with.
Control Freak
You cannot take on all the Wedding Day tasks. If you even try, I can guarantee you'll be crying in your champagne, or pouting in the ladies room.
Your wedding day will not be perfect. Didn't it feel good to hear that?
Seek out a few trusted friends or family members, and assign them a small list of tasks.
Hire a Wedding Planner or Coordinator. This will be the best money you ever spend! Why you ask? Well, because wedding details are like a second language to us. We can see the holes before they even appear. Troubleshooting is what we do, to make your experience seamless.
Honor Yourself
Schedule time to relax, and allow some alone time. Pampering appointments are always great - facials, massage - or maybe a Cocktail Hour with the girls?
Be sure to spend time NOT chatting about wedding planning - but keeping up with what is happening in others lives.
You want to nurture the relationship with self & friends.
Here's to Stylish Sanity!
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